Finally....
Baby Sohpie was born on Oct 16, sunny sunday morning. She brings sunshine, happiness and lucks to our family.
The delivery process took me 6 hours. It was smooth and not tooooo painful as i think.
2 hours after born
One day 3
On 12 mornings
Happily Ever After
On 7 May 2011, I turned to be Mrs. Leung :)
Beautiful 30s
Woman in their 30s are the mmost beautiful. I totally agree with that. To me, L and P are the most admirable persons, they are beautiful not just because of their appearances, but they can treasure and manage what they have now.
In the past, when i was still single, people asked me when to get a bf. Now I am with him, people ask me when I will get married. I can imagine, when i am married, peopel will ask me when I will have a baby...so on so on...
Why in a hurry, why fix it when there's nothing brokem? Thought it's important to move forward and keep yourself "improving", i would love to enjoy my life for what i already have not just try to get what i don't have/ i might have.
I am happy now, have a not too bad job (tho it's busy sometimes), have a happy and supportive family, have a caring and loving bf. I love to spend time and do thing with them.
Love my family and my bf =)
Positively transform your personal, love, work relationships
This books concludes that why a person says or acts a certain way and false assumptions about situations can create complaining that can be toxic to a relationship (or i should say any relationship, even the relationship with the world!) and is not necessary. It's so easy to understand - when you stop complaining, your partner will most likely not have anything to complain about either. When someone hurts your feelings, they are most of the time unaware that they have done so until the complaint is brought up, thus sparking natural defense which leads to more complaining...
I am still reading ....and learning...
ADD OIL!! The 21 days training!!!
More abt the 21-day experiment (quoted from other's blog)
My wife and I have embarked on a 21-day complaint free marriage experiment. I was first introduced to this idea. Tim Ferriss’ blog. In fact, there is a huge movement towards a complaint free world, almost 5 million bracelets distributed worldwide.
The idea is simple; go 21 days in a row without complaining. Sounds easy, right?
Nope!
After only 2 days, we both had already started over twice. And I consider myself to be a pretty optimistic person. I found out there is still work to be done.
This whole thing was started by Will Bowen, a Kansas City minister, who recognized there was far too much complaining in the world. He proposes that word choice determines thought choice, which determines emotions and actions. If you can eliminate complaining, you will experience more happiness.
Will’s designed one possible solution: wear a purple bracelet (actually anything will do, I have been using a rubber band), go 21 days in a row without complaining, gossiping, or criticizing. If you mess up, that’s ok, switch the bracelet to the other arm and start again at day 1.
So what exactly is a complaint?
My wife and I have already had many discussions on the subject. Here’s what we have come up with thus far. Any negative description of an event, person, or issue. Gossiping is pretty easy to define. As is criticizing. Discussing facts are ok. Here’s Eckhart Tolle’s take on the subject:
Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn’t necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up-if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. ‘How dare you serve me cold soup…?’ That’s complaining.
Already I have noticed the effect this is having on my thinking. It is forcing me to be more aware and precise. It has also forced me to spend more time listening and thinking before speaking. Thus far, this has been a tremendous metacognitive experiment.
So how does this work in marriage? We have decided to challenge each other. While complaining is specifically a personal thing, it spills over into marriage. We are also adding no marital complaints without suggestions of solutions. While we are each on the 21 day journey ourselves, we are experiencing it together. Encouraging each other, and bouncing questions off each other regarding what is or is not a complaint.
This is where you come in. Why don’t you join us?
All you have to lose is the complaining!
愛你的人
Thanks for my friend's foward, it is so true and I would like to share it with everyone! =)
玩你的人：半夜會找你打電話聊天到很晚。
愛你的人：會告訴你不要聊那麼晚。
玩你的人：他會找你出去玩，叫你放棄正事。
愛你的人：他會催你好好工作，踏踏實實。
玩你的人：在你生病時，會講好話關心你。
愛你的人：在你生病時，他會關心到你煩，並強迫你去看醫生。
玩你的人：他會盡量說好話來討好你，你也會覺得很開心。
愛你的人：他所說的話，都是關心你的，但是通常像是在命令。
玩你的人：他什麼事情都會配合你，只要你開心。
愛你的人：他會幫你辨別是非，但是你會感覺他管的太多。
玩你的人：他說他要給你最大的快樂。
愛你的人：他只能給你保證，你跟他在一起，他是最快樂的。
玩你的人：他在意你的生活細節，即使你做錯了什麼，他也不會指出來。
愛你的人：他在意你的一舉一動，告訴你什麼地方錯了，什麼地方該如何做，該如何與別人交往。
玩你的人：他不會在意你去做什麼，與什麼人交往。
愛你的人：他很在意你去做什麼，與什麼人交往。他還會告戒你不要與什麼人交往。
玩你的人：他只想要現在。
愛你的人：他已經預見未來，該怎麼自我努力，好好給你幸福。
玩你的人：他會說“我喜歡你！”
愛你的人：他會說“我愛你。
如果，你愛過或者被愛過，那麼，你會感到這些話千真萬確。
No wonder, he loves me a lot!! HAHAHAHHA
