Let's fall in love with Zen
I am reading a book called "Zen and the Art of Falling in Love"....haven't yet finished but can't wait sharing it with my buddies here:My fav quotes extracted from the Book:
1) THE ONE RIGHT BESIDES YOU
Most of the time we are searching and searching for the right person. Zen suggests that we stop running around seeking and see what is right in front of our eyes. Look at a person who is close to you right now – anyone it happens to be. Notice the ways in which you push him away. Stop doing that. Allow the two of you to be together in whatever way you are. Let all of it be fine just as it is. ....We dismiss so many people who are in our worlds, while waiting for the “right one” to appear. The more we can be “right” with everyone, the more we can open up to what is being offered now, the fuller and more joyous our lives will be.
2) PLAYING AT LOVE
So many complain that they are not loved. The reason for this can be quite simple. They are so busy playing roles and games that the partner never gets to know who they really are.....Let the roles go and simply be who you are. Who we are is always loveable and beautiful. It’s the roles that get in the way.
3) LETTING HIM COME AND LETTING HIM GO
......When someone comes into your life (or day) practice letting him come. Welcome the person – whoever he is. Enjoy what it is he brings......When it is time for a person to go away, practice letting him go. Do not turn the person’s leaving into an experience of rejection, loss or abandonment. Realize that his leaving has nothing to do with you. It is simply time for him to go........ The more we free others and ourselves, the more easily we fall in love.
4) PUTTING YOUR BAGGAGE DOWN
Many feel that love is not possible unless all their demands are met. They can be quite amazed to discover that these demands don’t lead to happiness. They just may be obstacles to falling in love. ..... this baggage can be making you fearful and rigid, not open to what is available for you. Let one of these demands subside. At first let it go for just one day and see how it feels to be without it. (Remember you can always take it back again).....As we do this many times, we may find that that which we thought was crucial for our lives was really getting in the way.
5) GIVING GIFTS
Giving and receiving are the essence of relationships. When we are in love this is never a problem. We naturally give and are happy with whatever is offered in return. To open up to falling in love, it is important to adopt this state of mind - start giving naturally. What gifts do you give others in relationships? Take a few moments and also see what you hope to receive in return. Now find something new you can give to somebody. Give it. Do this everyday. Each day give something else. It does not have to be fancy or expensive, just something that will add to his or her day....... When you give, remember not to look for anything in return (not even a smile or thank you). Just give to give, no expectations, no demands. By living with this open, generous mind, all kinds of other gifts come to you naturally.
6) MAKING FRIENDS WITH YOURSELF
Many say they are lonely, even with a partner at their side. This is simply because they have not yet made friends with themselves. Once they make friends with themselves and are able to be who they are, it is impossible to be lonely anymore.Make friends with yourself. Spend time noticing who you are. Accept all parts of yourself. Stop judging and rejecting what is going on inside. Be still and look within. Pay attention to your breath and just notice what is going on. Let it be. Accept it..... you are perfect just as you are. Can you choose to be this natural self in relationships? Can you choose to have relationships with those who want and appreciate just what you are?
By Dr Brenda Shoshanna
posted by ChecheBee @ 11:45 PM
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